“ … And you and I climb over the sea to the valley,
and you and I reach out for reasons to call …
I listened hard, but could not see life tempo change out and inside me …
In the end we’ll agree, we’ll accept, we’ll immortalize that the truth of the man maturing in his eyes,
all complete in the sight of seeds of life with you.
Coming quickly to terms of all expressions laid,
as a moment regained and regarded both the same,
emotion revealed as the ocean maid,
a clearer future, morning, evening, nights with you …”
And You and I – Close to the Edge – Words by Jon Anderson, Music by Yes
Dear “Muse”,
I have been doing a lot of thought about today and You and I. Mostly about I, but I can’t help but feel I should include You in the thought. Since there is no “us”, I need to find the words that might make something towards that idea possible.
I know that You are pursuing a course different than what was originally thought. Life has taken a direction that wasn’t planned, and for that You are trying to make sense of the journey that You now embark. I have watched You travel and have wanted to help, but my actions may not be reciprocated in the correct manner. You have your life to govern, while I have mine, and I do not want my care and concern to be unwanted interactions.
So I would like to propose an idea. You have found yourself in a position to make You struggle with the term “us”. You have had trials in the past with persons of selfish needs. People who look at the “us” as an end to grow the “self”. Or, even worse, People who use the “us” to limit the growth of “You” so the “I” will always be dominant. Many people have been in that situation, myself included, but I would like to propose a new venture … something that might change your mind on the idea.
I have found a newly found joy looking at joint possibilities. Collaboration with new colleagues who have given me the potential to grow. Grow in new and exciting ways. I retain my individuality while these collaborations let me see the power the group has over the self. And because of this collaboration I have been thinking about You.
I love the accomplishments and potential of what You offer. I would never want to diminish You in that way, which I know others have tried to do. I think … no … I know You are amazing and secretly hope that I can live up to the ideal placed on You. And I know if You are interested We can create amazing things the world has never seen. I would love to be a part of You to help achieve the next level … whatever that level means.
But this “We” only works if You see the same potential in what I offer as well. There can be no dominance in the joint venture. When the status quo of the collaboration shifts power then the equality of the team starts to become tenuous and strained. Of course at times You will win out over needs, but at times I need to win out as well. Together, We can build each other to a higher strength than ever imagined. But it needs to be a unified “we”, not a “We” that is unbalanced. We have both been in situations like that. We have found that it lessens our potential and ourselves, and we cannot be the people we are destined to be.
So what do You think of what I have proposed? A partnership together to create the best “us” that we can be. A partnership to never lose “You” or “I”, but together finding the best “You” and “I” imaginable by working together as “us”. Isn’t that what everyone wants? A person to boost them up when the silver lining cannot be found? A person to revel in their times of joy and happiness? A person who will celebrate the entire being of the other?
I am not trying to impose myself on You. I just want You to know that I appreciate all that You are. And I think … no I believe that You are a person that will change the world. I don’t want to miss out on that opportunity because You were never given the option. You and I … us … we can make it.
If it is something You want as well.
Sincerely,
A personal I